Overview Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided thousands of readers with an answerand has helped them to apply it to their own lives.Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents' expectations and win their love. Alice Miller writes, When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived. But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.' If you feel that you have had controlling, obsessive, depressed, narcisistic parent(s) in any way, shape, or form you MUST give this book a chance if you are REALLY willing to change.

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After reading this, there was no more sweeping the dirt under the rug. It gave me the strength, courage, and the confidence to face and finally mourn the fact that I was emotionally abused and expoited by my father. It OPENED MY EYES to this fact: that I was never given a chance to be who I truly am. And knowing that comes from the ALLOWANCE TO FEEL ONE'S OWN FEELINGS. This book helped me to see that I could no longer allow myself to repress my feelings for the sake of 'mommy or daddy's wishes.'

I realized the painful truth - that the chance to express my true feelings was ROBBED from me in my childhood over and over again by a parent who was exploited in the same way and unconsciously passed down what was done to him. Before I read this book I suffered from constant emotional torture in my mind.

Obsessing over and over again over things I could not control. Worrying needlessly over what other people thought of me.

Feeling that I was absolutely worthless. I went to therapy for 5 years which helped me a bit.

I also have read over 100 self-help books, pop psychology books, etc. NONE of them helped me. That was all until this book was recommended to me by a woman I know. After I read it, I have never seen myself the same way again. The understanding and COMPASSION I was so desperately searching for finally came to me in the form of this little book. It taught me to acknowledge that ONLY AN ABUSED PERSON CAN ABUSE OTHERS. I am finally learning to have compassion for myself AND even for my abuser.

But I also realize his abuse will continue if I ALLOW it to. Remember, most abuse is UNCONSCIOUS. Many times parents don't know they are doing it and even if they did they most likely would not take responsibility for it anyway. The reason is because their pain is so great to begin with. All they know how to do is continue the torturous, vicious cycle brought upon them starting in infancy - against their will. Most people cannot face the brutal pain they feel, lodged deep within, so they act it out in ways that can be so cruel and heartless. Unless the pain and suffering inside gets acknowledged and FACED then no change can occur.

But the key thing is that the person themself has to want to change. YOU CANNOT change your parents. They must want to do it.

And the sad reality is, most of the time they WILL NOT. So we MUST ACCEPT THIS, MOURN, and MOVE ON.

Because we CAN change OURSELVES. That is the only person we truly have control over. This book also helped me to realize that the past is long gone and dead. There is no retrieving it.

But as adults we now have the ability to form our own lives and independence. To take back those chances to grow into who we are that was never offered to us. We are NOT those helpless toddlers anymore. The book also talks about the CRUCIAL NEED fo. Alice Miller's 'Drama Of The Gifted Child,' was originally published as 'Prisoners Of Childhood; The Drama Of The Gifted Child,' in 1981. I read the book over 20 years ago, and recently reread it.

I find that it is just as relevant, wise and perceptive today as it was then. Miller was a practicing psychoanalyst, who gave up her work with patients to write books, for the layperson, primarily dealing with early childhood abuse. In a new Forward, Miller continues to disavow psychoanalysis. Although I am not in agreement with her on this, she continues to be one of my heroes. Miller, who writes an elegant and easily understandable prose, discusses here the issue of children raised by a narcissistic parent(s). She explains that this book is not about high I.Q.

Children, but about those who were able to survive an abusive childhood because they developed an adequate defense system. At a very early age the child intuitively apprehends the parent's needs. Since the parent, especially the mother, is the child's soul source of survival, the child strives to please, fearing disapproval, or abandonment. Thus, the child sublimates his needs for the parent's.

Roles reverse and the child frequently takes on the parent's responsibility as emotional caregiver. This impedes the growth of a child's true identity, and a 'loss of self' frequently occurs.

The child adapts by not 'feeling' his own needs, and develops finely tuned antennae, focusing intensely on the needs of the all important other. Miller writes, 'An abused child, (emotionally), does not know it is being abused, and in order to survive and avoid the unbearable pain, the mind is provided with a remarkable mechanism, the 'gift' of 'repression,' which stores these experiences in a place outside of consciousness.' Although, later in life, these 'prohibited' feelings and needs cannot always be avoided, they remain split off and the most vital part of the true self is not integrated into the personality.

The results are often depression, and tremendous insecurity. Alice Miller makes her readers aware of the unexpressed sufferings of the child and the tragedy of the parent(s) own illness. As she frequently states, 'any parent who abuses a child,' knowingly or otherwise, 'has himself been severely traumatized in his childhood, in some form or another.' Gifted children are often the products of emotional abuse by a narcissistic parent. However, if the child's great need for admiration is not met, for his/her looks, intelligence or achievements, he/she falls into severe depression.

Miller says one can only be free from depression 'when self-esteem is based on the authenticity of one's own feelings and not on the possession of certain qualities.' Children need a great deal of both emotional and physical support from the adult. According to Miller, this adult support must include the following elements in order for a child to develop to his or her full potential: 'Respect for the child; respect for his r. I am on my second reading of 'Drama' and am finding it even more riveting. It seems written for me personally. Miller takes on the reigning Freudian methodology with the heretical insight that even well-meaning parents can contribute to the suppression of their children's true selves. It is common knowledge that Freud initially determined that his 'hysterical' female patients had often been sexually abused by men in positions of trust and power in their lives, but that the medical society of the time refused to believe this.

In order to not be thrown out of the Viennese Medical Society, Freud came up with ingenious but destructive theories (Oedipal complex, etc.) to explain his patients' symptoms. Miller takes us back to the truth - that early childhood trauma and betrayal causes peculiarly destructive symptoms in adult life, and that the situation is further complicated by the psychological process of denial and suppression. The victims even feel positive about their tormentors, so that they can survive (the 'Stockholm syndrome'). Miller relates this process to the now well-documented 'post-traumatic stress syndrome', but argues that it is even more difficult to understand and undo when the trauma happens not to fully formed adults, but to pre-verbal children, who can only feel the pain, but cannot express its cause. The memories can be suppressed, but the feelings and their effects cannot be eradicated without witnessing them as an adult.

This is a very liberating discovery for one who has been traumatized as a child, and leads to methods of recovery that provide hope for adult sufferers. Interestingly, in the preface to the 1994 edition, Miller enthusiastically credits the methods of J. Konrad Stettbacher with helping her overcome her own symptoms of childhood abuse. In the 1996 version, this forward is omitted, as is any reference to Stettbacher's work. I wonder if that is because Miller has changed her mind about his methods, or if there was some kind of proprietary struggle? In any event, 'Drama' is a seminal work, and will likely reverberate in the psychotherapy community for a long time to come.

A must-read for anyone struggling with the effects of their childhood - and who isn't? Give a copy to your shrink, your parents, your kids, your significant other.but be prepared for some interesting dinner conversations!

A very insightful book. It felt like Alice Miller had written these pages for me. I even found myself reading whole sections of text out loud! I was also surprised when I handed the book to my girlfriend, and she also remarked that the book applied to her as well.A quick note.

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For you to really use the material in this book, you must be willing to look into yourself and into your past. If your defense mechanisms are out in force (or if you don't realize that you even have defense mechanisms), then you will not be able to see what you have to do. (In fact, some of your defense mechnisms are there specifically to prevent access to the very content you need to get to.).